Before, During, and After
Marriage isn’t a one size fits all. People – both individuals and couples – need help along the way whether that be before, during, or after their marriage. I am here to help you no matter what stage you are in.
Before You Say, ‘I Do’: Premarital Counseling
Even though this is a blissful time in your relationship, there is no time like the present to engage (no pun intended!) in pre-marital counseling. By doing so, you will not only learn about yourself and what’s important to you, but also your soon to be spouse. This will ensure that both of you are on the page, walking down the same path, with similar views and values about marriage before your big day! I have seen too many couples who wait until AFTER they are married to have these necessary and enlightening conversations. And, truthfully, by then – for many couples – it’s too late. Their differences out weigh their similarities. They often say, ‘I wish we had these conversations before we got married.’
These are some of the most important conversations that you will have as you continue to build your life together as you take the next step in marriage. We not only discuss these important issues, but we focus on ensuring that both of you walk away with healthy and effective communication styles to last a lifetime.
Marital/Relationship Counseling (The ‘During’ Stage)
Relationships are complicated, aren’t they? If you are looking for a therapist then you are experiencing some level of relationship or marital distress that is really affecting your life. And most likely your ability to express how you feel to your partner or spouse is made more difficult because for most couples, ‘they just cannot communicate.’ Sound familiar? No doubt. Communication problems are the #1 reason why couples seek therapy. But just providing skills and strategies is only part of the problem. The other part is helping couples reconnect – emotionally, physically, mentally – in a way that makes them feel safe and that they can trust their partner to really open up, share what’s bothering them, and get them moving in a healthier direction. Changes that occur will change the ‘dance’ or process with you and your partner or spouse – which can be a good thing – ultimately changing the game – your relationship. My 3-path approach – attachment styles, communication styles, and addressing the underlying issues – has proven beneficial for couples who are stuck in their relationship or marriage. Let’s talk!
Divorce Counseling and Coaching (After Marriage)
I recognize that this is one of the most difficult, challenging, and emotionally driven life transitions that you will ever experience. I get that. I have been divorced and I know right where you are. However, I am here to tell you that despite where you are, eventually you will experience the silver lining of being on the other side of your divorce. But, to get there, you have to embrace the journey that awaits you – because we all have one and one that is our own. No one else can claim that! I can help you navigate the ups and downs (and there will be many) of divorce, address your issues, provide comfort and an empathetic ear, in a place that is all your own – a place that will get you from where you are – usually in the trenches – to where you want to be – a healthy and empowered place and one where you feel centered and ready to conquer the world again!
I use Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), an active, collaborative, and skills-based modality, and Solution Focused Therapy (SFT), an approach that will help you focus on your preferred future by setting small, achievable goals. SFT asks the Miracle Question which get YOU thinking about what you really want your life to look like, how you would like it to be. Using SFT will moves you from being problem-focused to solution-focused. And it works! People love this approach. Its thought provoking, creates insight, tangible, and makes people feel successful in ways they never imagined! You will experience a sense of accomplishment and feel productive.
I work with couples who are unmarried/coupled up, gay, and straight. We address all the thorny issues — strife, infidelity (and how to recover and thrive), addictions (pornography, alcohol, drugs, eating, shopping), and sexual intimacy.
I am direct, authentic, honest, and open. I will help you connect the dots in your life so that you can resolve your issues and become healthier and feel better and more optimistic about your life.
Together, we do just that.
I also help with:
Relationship and Dating Issues
Mediation (Separation, Divorce, Family)
Frequently Asked Questions
How are sessions structured?
Traditional individual and couples sessions are 45 minutes. This excludes Discernment Counseling.
How do I get started?
To begin the therapy process, you can either call my office at 917-715-6583 or email me. Upon receiving your telephone call or email, I will contact you within 24 hours to briefly discuss your current issues and if appropriate, schedule an appointment.
I also offer a free 20-minute consultation. During the consultation, we briefly discuss your current issues to help ensure that I am the most appropriate person to help you.
What are the fees?
I am in network with Blue Cross/Blue Shield. I am an out of network provider for all other insurance plans. Depending on your insurance plan, you may be entitled to reimbursement for my services. Please contact your insurance company for benefits and eligibility. If you are not using insurance, please call my office for individual or couples fees.
How do I pay for the session?
I accept cash, check, Visa, Mastercard. Payment is expected at the time of service. If you are not using insurance, I provide a superbill at the end of each session which can be submitted to your insurance company for possible reimbursement. If you are not using insurance, please call my office for my rate.
Do you accept insurance?
I currently accept Blue Cross/Blue Shield. I am considered an out of network provider for all other insurance plans. Please contact your insurance company for more information regarding fees and reimbursement.
What are your hours?
I have both day and evening hours available.
What is your cancellation policy?
Since scheduling an appointment involves reserving time specifically for you, a minimum of 24-hour notice is required for re-scheduling or canceling an appointment. There is a cancellation fee charged if your appointment is cancelled less than the required 24 hours.