In her book, Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby outlines specific criteria that can help you determine if you are an ‘Exaholic.’ This book is for people who are struggling – really struggling – with getting over their ex. She explains how people become addicted to relationships and the reasons why – for some people – it’s so difficult to let go and move on.
Dr. Bobby poses several questions to help you determine if you are an Exaholic:
- Are you longing to get back together with someone who has rejected you?
- Are you struggling to finally let go of an unhealthy relationship?
- Are you obsessed by thoughts of your Ex?
- Do you feel compulsions to search for information about your Ex?
- Are you afraid that you will never find another relationship that is as meaningful and special as the one you lost?
- Do you feel that your self-worth had been badly damaged in the aftermath of your relationship?
- Are you feeling isolated and alone and that your friends and family don’t understand what you’re going through?
- Is your emotional pain so great that you are having difficulty in functioning?
If the answer is yes to some or all of those questions, you are likely an Exaholic. However, Dr. Bobby goes on to say that being an Exaholic is simply a shorthand way of saying that you can currently relate to a nearly universal experience: feeling absolutely gutted in the aftermath of a lost relationship.
Still need help and support? Check out Exaholics.com – a ‘real time’ website that is very engaging, and resourceful. Don’t’ go it alone!